How Do We Know We’re Succeeding?-A Simple Tip To Ensure Your Success

The biggest question that I ask myself on a regular basis, is am I doing it right? Parenting styles belong on an incredibly complex spectrum. We are thrown into the life of a parent in hopes that we will “figure it out” along the way. This post explores the most important key I have for ensuring your journey is a success.

Undoubtedly, every so often there is a shift in what is believed to be the best parenting style. Some trends are passed down with each generation, while others are acquired by individuals seeking to improve upon their past.

Everyone has an opinion. If you’re lucky, those opinions will stay right where they belong…with the believer (unless you are actively seeking advice). Since you are here, I will share some things I’ve learned along the way. As a parent of two young children, an educator, and a person who has spent a lifetime observing the dynamic of the parent-child relationship, one thing remains true:

You were once a child. Remember that.

Undeniably, you know exactly what it is like to be a living, breathing, growing human being. If you have memories of your childhood (good and bad), use them to guide you in your parenting journey.

Think back about your childhood. Especially, think about the conversations and the experiences you had or didn’t have with your parent/caregiver. Do you wish things were done a different way? If not, congrats to you! You accomplished the impossible…you had a picture perfect life as a growing individual! 🙂

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying our parents didn’t have their good qualities. What I AM saying, is that there is always room for growth. Of course, that growth is not possible without some self reflection.

Whether you had a great childhood or not, those experiences were given to you as a guide. You have the opportunity to remember your past and use it to shape your child’s future.

Sounds like a lot of pressure right? It is. The truth is, we will never be the perfect parent day in and day out. We will all struggle and have bad days. We will become stressed, tired, and lose our patience. These things are unavoidable.

So, when you have those moments where you feel like you’re failing, remind yourself of your younger self.

When we think about someone’s perspective on things, we can empathize with them. When we empathize, we can take action. So, how do we know if we’re succeeding as a parent? Successful parenting involves looking at your child. Listening to your child. Most importantly, remember that you were once a child, just like them. Use your past, to guide their future.

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